“No matter what your ability is, effort is what ignites that ability and turns it into accomplishment.”
Mindset is a funny old thing. You can’t touch it or see it, but it is undoubtedly the most important thing to master when it comes to reaching your goals and getting what you want. I honestly believe that success doesn’t come down to natural talent, your education, background, or whether your parents can bail you out if things go south… mindset is key.
When I say mindset, of course I mean one that is positive, a growth mindset, a mindset primed for success.
Stanford psychologist, Carol Dweck, who is an expert in this and writes about a ‘growth’ mindset, shows us through her research that growth-minded students employ better learning strategies, experience less helplessness, exhibit more positive effort, are less likely to place limits on their lives and more likely to reach for their potential.
See the power of the mindset!
However, there is a big BUT…
Your mindset is malleable and can unfortunately be easily knocked or shaped by negative experiences, even from other people or things you take in subconsciously. This is why it is so crucial you work on your mindset. It is like a muscle; you have to cultivate it daily and work at it to make it strong.
Protect your mindset so you can minimise the negative things that invade it and cause “mindset rot”.
When it comes to developing a strong ‘success mindset’ there are so many things you can do, from positive affirmations to working with a coach. However, you need to be aware of these three seemingly harmless “mindset stealers”. Sure, they look harmless but if you don’t watch out for them, they will slowly chip away at your mindset and do long term damage.
The problem with your mindset is that it is with you every day. This means it is tuned into what you say (out loud and to yourself) ALL the time. There is no ‘off’ button. It will pick up what you say whether it is positive and supportive, or negative and detrimental. You have to mind your language.
What are you saying to yourself?
Do you casually berate yourself, or actively talk yourself out of action? Do these kinds of phrases ever make its way into your vocabulary?
Minding your language also includes self-deprecating humour. I think Brits love a bit of that, but it can quickly turn from a joke to negatively impacting your mindset. I have an amazing friend who came to one of my workshops on how to squash limiting self-beliefs and had a realisation that she needed to stop joking “the fat b**th is going for another biscuit” because this kind of language isn’t constructive despite it being ‘a joke’.
Your language creates your thoughts, and your thoughts inspire your belief and action.
Mood hoovers, energy vampires, drains… whatever you want to call them, these are the people in your life that despite you loving dearly, suck at your positive energy. You know who I mean!
The family member who’s well-meant “oh, you sure that is going to work dear?” just puts self-doubt into your career plans, or the friend who’s life is like an episode of East Enders and she likes to whinge about it constantly.
Now, I am not saying you should give them a call, tell them that they are a mood hoover and you no longer have room for them in your life. But if you are serious about improving your mindset, then do be aware of them and protect your mind! It will depend who they are and the dynamic of the relationship but there are some things you can do to improve the situation of the mood hoovers in your life from sapping all that success mindset goodness.
Maybe, like you, I am an “all or nothing” person. Seems harmless right, and what does it have to do with mindset? Well, a lot!
The trouble with an “all or nothing” attitude is that it is too black and white. It is too win/lose. When it comes to success, you need a growth mindset - remember what I said at the start about Carol Dweck’s research.
Growth and success are about progress, practice, learning from mistakes. It isn’t about trying it once and completing is first time. Can you see now how an “all or nothing” attitude can impair a positive mindset. There is no room for learning, progress, baby steps forward or improvement.
If you are like me with a “I have had one biscuit, the diet is ruined so I might as well have the whole packet” type, be aware that this kind of behaviour impacts on your mindset. You’ve told yourself you have failed and to give up, because you see everything as a win/lose situation.
As Carol Dweck points out in her book Mindset, your mindsets can and does change. Like any other habit, practice gets you the mindset you want. You have to set your mind to it until the right mindset becomes routine. My blog 4 Insanely easy ways to create good habits explains the simple truth that habits are what gets you success and teaches four insanely easy ways to start creating good habits.
Keep a watch out for these three, seemingly harmless but detrimental, mindset stealers! Remember your life is only as good as your mindset, and you deserve an amazing life.
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Remember, it is always good positive habits that are going to get you success and move you towards your goal not willpower or education or anything like that. It simply is just good daily habits. So, there you have it! Four easy ways to start creating good habits!
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